WHAT I DO & WHAT I PACK IN PREPARATION FOR A SEXY GETAWAY WITH MY MAN
By Sonya Camille
MY 29TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY IS DECEMBER 18TH
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IT’S MY TURN TO PLAN OUR ANNIVERSARY TRIP
Here’s the thing, I always need more time, but I’m always running out of it. I know that doesn’t make sense to many of you, but it’s true. The interesting thing is, as much of a professional procrastinator as I am, I always get evv-err-y-thingg on my to-do list done. My problem is I can’t plan early enough to alleviate the tremendous stress that late planning causes. Not sure if it’s a curs…well, I won’t speak that word-but whatever it is; it does leave me asking, “is it a, a something (insert word I shall not say), or is it just me?”
Last year my husband planned a fantastic anniversary getaway for him and me, and it was perfect! So now, it’s my year to plan. But first, I’ve got to figure out how to one-up him in just a few days of actual planning time. We are competitive in every way imaginable, and although it causes me tremendous stress, I actually do love it! As I type this, my husband is waiting for his instruction package, which would list every detail of our getaway, but little does he know, I haven’t purchased a dog-on thing for our trip yet-I have yet to even start planning. Lord help me!
My anniversary prep is a whole thing that takes a lot of time. Trust me, It’s worth it, but the time it takes to prepare in the middle of my insanely busy schedule is the problem. In short, I need time to prepare for my time with my guy. I wouldn’t dare go to our sexy getaway without checking the following off of my “sexy weekend with hubby” To-Do and To-Pack checklist.
Here’s the list, my friends.
What To-Do and What To-Pack In Preparation For A
♥️ VERY SEXY 💋
WEEKEND GETAWAY with YOUR LOVE
Que soft music….
– GET YOUR HAIR DONE- Y’All! For black women, getting our hair done is a thing. It’s a whole thing! Not to suggest that other ethnicities do not need to get their hair also done, but we sistas must make sure that our hair is on point at all times. It’s no secret that it takes us a bit more effort than what my non-afro ethnic friends must endure. Even though I know I’ll return from my trip with my flat ironed hair reverting to its natural state of curls, I know I will start the weekend off with a sleek blowout (iykyk).
Girlfriends, no matter your ethnicity and how you rock your style, keep it fresh and clean. Get a fresh cut, new style, new braids, and new products for that fierce natural that you’re sporting if, of course, you’re sporting a natural. Whatever it is and whoever you are, keep it fresh. Keep it fresh, everything! Take the extra time- it matters! Also, men, you are not off the hook here. Please, for the love of your wife, get a haircut that we like that!
– NAILS, NAILS, NAILS!– Soft hands & soft feet are a must! Do not even entertain the idea of going away with your person without a fresh manicure and pedicure. And friends, please always pay a few extra dollars to get gel or dipped nails on your fingers and on your toes. It lasts much longer—Plus, who has time to sit and wait for their nails to dry? No chip, dip, or gel are an absolute must, so get it, please!
-GET A FEW SECRETS- You must pick up 2-3 little Victoria Secret secrets (wink, wink). No granny nothing ladies-jammies or birthday suits! A matching undie set with a cute little silky robe is also acceptable. Here’s my secret to you, if you surprise him with a secret, he won’t stop smiling, so give it a try!
-SMOOTH IS SEXY! Keep it smooth, my friends! No fuzz, No hair! Only smooth arms and legs, ladies. Body waxing is the move, and If you’re still shaving, shame on you! Consider waxing, or howbeit painful; threading also yields great results.
-MY GIFT- I stress about this every year. What do I give the man who already has everything? His answer each year is the same. He says the same thing every year: “Sonya, you’re the only gift I need,” Such a super sweet thing to say. But I want to give my hubby a well-thought-out, tangible gift. I want to give him a thoughtful, unique gift that will make him smile for hours after receiving it. Picking up the perfect gift is the goal, but the pressure mounts to find that gift Ummm, tomorrow since we leave in a few days. Just kidding, his gift is the first and, at this moment, the only thing I have so far. So again, I say, “Lord help me!”
-SMELL GOOD ALWAYS!- I do not understand, nor will I ever understand, how some people refuse to bathe/shower daily. No judgment if you are one of those “I only shower every other day or once a week, chicks.” Whew, I can’t even… you know, we’ll put a pin in that one for now. That’s another subject for another blog post. So what I will say is this, in preparation for your weekend trip, pick up 1-2 new body sprays from Victoria’s Secret or Bath & Body Works. Something soft and sweet. Perfume (for me) is too strong. No matter which spays you select, know that you’ll love having a little something, something, in your bag, ya know?
-COUPLES GAMES- This is the best, and it’s so much fun! Pack A couple of games and play them together on your special weekend—such a fun way to keep things fresh and fun.
SET THE MOOD-Pack Candles, a portable speaker, chocolates, real or artificial rose petals, or whatever you want to pack to create a romantic setting for you and your guy. Many hotels have honeymoon or anniversary packages where the staff stages the room for you before your arrival. So you can arrange for the hotel to set up the room for you or you can do it yourself. It doesn’t matter, just as long as you get-er-done!
-CHILL TIME- My husband and I love to chill out, watch a movie, and order room service, so remember to pack your HDMI cord and the laptop computer just in case the hotel doesn’t offer movies that you would be interested in watching. Cuddling and movie time in bed with the love of your life is, as they say, the literal bomb!!
Well, my friends, that’s a few things on my list that I decided to share. Some things are not for the blog and are me and my guys little secret but this list should help you get started. Now, for the planning. Pray for ya girl because I have alot to do in a very short amount of time and still look cute when it’s time go. We only have a short weekend since we both must return to work. So, I’m exploring the idea of renting a cabin in the mountains somewhere: in Colorado, California, Tennessee, or elsewhere. Let the planning tonight begin!
I asked a friend of mine for a few suggestions on places to go for the weekend, and she suggested Savannah, GA. Since I’ve never visited Savannah, GA, I decided to look into it. My friend even gave me this insanely fun idea of pretending to have a, what do they call it now? Oh yes, a sneaky link with my guy.
So for anyone who does not know what a SL is… here ya go. So, a SL is where I would send my husband an address to meet me- could be a restaurant, a park, museum or a hotel lobby. Honestly, it could be anywhere. Since we will travel separately to meet, she suggested we add to the fun of it all and pretend we are strangers meeting up somewhere. Good girl movie drama stuff… (I’m literally laughing while typing this). She told me to act as though we were strangers and slip him my room key after dinner. Role-playing at its finest, lol! Isn’t that great? Why do I love the idea of this so much? Should I do it? How funny would that be? If I were to do something like this, I would definitely go all out by putting on one of my sexy dress and high heels and maybe trying my hand at an accent of some sort- yup, I’m just that goofy. And since I truly feel as if I could have been an amazing Hollywood actress, I would have fun getting into character for my mans and ham the whole thing up. Why not, right? I’m not sure if I’ll take her advice this time, but if I do, rest assured that I will do it up big. Regardless, Anniversary #29 will be one neither of us will ever forget!
I do have to share with you that my sweet friend is the cutest and quietest pastor’s wife ever. You would never think this suggestion would come from her, and I LOVE THAT! Ladies, keep it spicy and sexy! Have fun and do whatever you want with the love of your life! What did I say earlier? Keep him smiling! And always keep it classy! Although I have never pretended to have a sneaky link with my man… yet (lol), I have, in fact, done plenty of other “fun” things many that I’ll of course, keep between him and me, but we do have fun! Please email me a few fun (not to personal) things that you do with your love to keep things exciting and spicy and I will compile a new list for the follow-up blog post.
My friend like me are always doing the most– perhaps that’s why we are such close gal pals. Just remember friends, all is fair, in love and marriage! Keep it spunky, keep it classy and keep your person smiling!
Signed,
Cordially keeping it Spicy for my love or maybe Cordially Always & Forever with him Y’all-He’s all MINE♥️
Anniversary getaway edition!
Kisses 💋
THIS IS US!
Forget the TV show, like for real for real, my “us” is this, and “this”, my friends, is absolutely US!
We, meaning my guy and me, love hard and are both insanely emotional when it comes to each other but pretty hardcore outside of our four walls. There has never been a time when we were not in sync when it comes to our parenting and our children. Maybe not always 100% in sync over the course of our 30 years of courtship and marriage on some issues here and there, but I have to tell you, we always work it out, and admittedly, we have always had the undeniable determination to never give up on us. we believe in our crazy love and we do the dang thang, gangster-style together baby. That’s how we roll!
How do I emphasize the word ‘Legit’? So imagine I just elevated my voice by 30 decibels and yelled the word LEGiT with a hand gesture and body language that suggests, “Legit.” Legit team us for freaking Life! Oh, just a notable side note, we absolutely killed the parenting game-at least so far…. I guess tbh the verdict is still out until my young adults finish school and grad school and fly on their own, so hit me up in a few years!
This is me and my love’s little corner on this blog to share many of our ups, downs, sideways, and trip-ups as transparent, raw, and real as possible. Our life has been an awesome and crazy adventure so far. One that we know others can possibly learn from so we will share it all here, in love and always Cordially… stay tuned!